Marriage is a union of a man as [husband] and a woman as [wife] to form a family. But there are certain factors that can hinder love, care, and happiness in a home. A careful look at these factors and how to avoid and stop such acts. Talking on a few factors that will enlighten couples and lovers in a relationship to wise up and stop these characters, behaviours and actions before it's too late.
FACTORS THAT AFFECT MARRIAGES
1• LIES - This is the most common of all factors, which comes in little or big packs. Lies blocks the truth and opens more door ways for more lies to flow in. To tell a lie is like doing drugs, where you take a little sip or sniff, ah it feels good right! Then you want and crave for more and more, till you can't control it anymore. You become a junkie of lie. When couples lie to each other, they grow further apart spiritually and physically.
They may feel well, it's just a little lie, won't do any harm. But unknown to them that a very big line has been drawn in between them which if not treated will be the cause of their divorce or separation in a case of courtship or relationship. 75-80% of couples or lovers lie to each other, having a silly excuse to do what your spouse doesn't like. Why most couples lie, is due to the lack of understanding and trust.
" A relationship where lie is the main course! Most definitely, they are living a lie."
A FEW WAYS TO AVOID LIES
• Always tell the truth, even if its hard to.
• Learn to earn ones trust by building together every aspect of your marriage.
• Have a talk often as you can with your spouse, communication is key.
• Understanding should be a key for a couple, through careful observations and tolerance.
• Both couples should work on their likes and dislikes to avoid lies about how the really feel about it.
2• BAD HABITS - This factor is also a major cause of several family break ups. Bad habits; exhibiting certain characters that are harmful to your relationship. A few of these are Clubbing, Drinking excess, Womanising and others. Clubbing is a part of most youths and men presently. Hanging out with friends and meeting new people, getting introduced to new things and acts that will lead to spoiling the beautiful and peaceful home you have. If a spouse really loves and care for the other, one would stop the habit or if willing once a while, go there together so both can control their actions. Excessive drinking leads to assault, insults and total misbehaviour.
If a family man gets drunk, he is a bad example to his children also any woman who drinks too much. Most at times they may abuse their kids(incest). Not knowing of the damage they have caused, this can lead to a psychological breakdown and problems in the affected child's life. Also the drunk dad might beat his wife and hurt her in severe ways, leading to jail and a total broken home. Men mostly should stop drinking and concentrate on spending more time with their family, stop that bottle of beer now and avoid been an abusive father. Choose your friends, avoid negative attitudes and influence.
A womaniser is known for his lust desires in ladies, also as a mini playboy. Where married men cheat on their wives with other younger females outside and feel it's a normal thing mostly because they got introduced to it or their friends do the same.
"The fall of a great man is due to his selfish and greedy findings in lust for wrongful desires."
The essence of marriage is to marry someone you love, someone beautiful in your eyes. Whatever you see outside that attracts you, why not get it for your wife see if you won't adore her the more.
"A womaniser is a prey to adultery and sin. Stop it!"
Women and ladies should be principled and respect their men, do what is right and he will treat you like a queen. Don't pay attention to what your silly friends do in form of fun. Your fun should be with your husband and home.
To be continued...
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